By labeling one side as "wrong" and the other side as "right," you're failing to see the nuances of each side. It's not "this" or "that," it's a spectrum, a continuum. When we're always looking for a "win," the "other side," is only strategizing for the next "win." We then have the pendulum swinging wildly, which never brings about a stable society.

Change comes not from offending one another and labeling others as "wrong" or "these women." This is a form of violence. It's about recognizing the deep-seated issues that brought about these differences. A racist wasn't born that way, and you can't heal the systemic racism by judging others for how they were brought up. You also can't assume that "they" are a monolith.

Instead, sustainable change comes when we all have a seat at the table with the aim for resolution, not "winning."

We might feel a sense of relief when Trump leaves office, but we can't ignore the irritant that built him up. Yes, I believe Trump is the Golgothan Shit Demon (from "Dogma") that was raised from some of the hate in society. But responding to hate with more hate just brings about more instability, and the pendulum could easily swing back towards Trumpism if we fail to look at how we ourselves are contributing to the problem.

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